Earlier today, I received an e-mail from my father with an attachment in it titled “The 4 Principles of Spirituality”.
Normally I don’t really open forwards, but being a bit of a spiritual buff, I thought “what the heck, let’s see what it’s got to say” – and boy was I surprised.
To put things into context, today wasn’t my best day. My car battery went flat, my daughter’s day care wouldn’t apply her nappy rash cream unless it came with instructions on a pharmacy label, I had my bottle of water leak all over my laptop, and to top it off, I arrived at work with two managers and a support staff jumping down my throat due to an error I made. It was a pretty bad start to the day.
Receiving this e-mail might have just changed that, and I think it’s worth me sharing these principles, and giving my point of view on them:
First Principle: “Whomsoever you encounter is the right one”
This means that no one comes into our life by chance. Everyone who is around us, anyone with whom we interact, represents something, whether to teach us something or to help us improve a current situation.
I look at that, and totally get that my wife, my daughter, my parents, my colleagues, my friends and even people I don’t particularly like, are in my life, for my benefit. As long as I understand this and accept it, then I have no cause to complain about anyone…
…now sometimes complaining is fun, but it takes your personal power and gives it to the person your complaining about.
Reflecting upon this, I figure that if everyone in my life has something to offer me, then I should learn what I need to learn, and take the help I need to take, and accept them rather than bitch about them. So my management, support staff and the teachers at my daughter’s day care are back in my good books, and I’m already observing what I needed to learn from them today.
Second Principle: “Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened”
Nothing, absolutely nothing of that which we experienced could have been any other way. Not even in the least important detail. There is no “If only I had done that differently…, then it would have been different…”. No. What happened is the only thing that could have taken place and must have taken place for us to learn our lesson in order to move forward. Every single situation in life, which we encounter, is absolutely perfect, even when it defies our understanding and our ego.
I get from the explanation that thinking “what if” is not only a waste of time, but it actually doesn’t keep you grounded or focused on the present, but rather living in past possibilities which have no bearing on the present circumstance. What has happened is so that we can learn something, and even if it’s beyond our comprehension why it happened, the fact is it’s the only thing that could have happened, and so we can accept it or not.
If I choose not to accept it, again, I can bitch and moan, and as fun as that may be, I’m really convinced now that it is not only a waste of time, but it actually leads to heartache and despair. Accept what has happened, learn from it, and move on.
So I know now, that I’ll not be putting my water bottle in the same bag as my laptop… which seems like common sense now… and even though my car battery that went flat, in accepting it, I’m actually quite ok with it all.
Third Principle: “Each moment in which something begins is the right moment”
Everything begins at exactly the right moment, neither earlier nor later. When we are ready for it, for that something new in our life, it is there, ready to begin.
Far out, as if my mind wasn’t blown apart already, I think this particular principle has just done the job. There’s something comforting in getting this statement. Again, it comes down to accepting what happens in one’s life, and also worth noting that this isn’t a race… life is not a race… we’ll all get to the end, so why are we rushing…?
Fourth Principle: “What is over, is over”
It is that simple. When something in our life ends, it helps our evolution. That is why, enriched by the recent experience, it is better to let go and move on.
A simple and elegant slap in the face for all those people who can’t build a bridge to get over things, and now a compelling reason why they should start building that bridge. Accept what has been completed, and allow yourself to grow.
I have no idea who wrote this but I’m in absolute awe at the simplicity and effectiveness of their work.
And if that wasn’t awesome enough, read what follows to see how they complete this:
I think it is no coincidence that you’re here reading this.
If these words strike a chord, it’s because you meet the requirements and understand that not one single snowflake falls accidentally in the wrong place!
Be good to yourself.
Love with your whole being.
Always be happy.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you totally knock my socks off! What started as a bad day, turned into one of the most amazing epiphanies that I’ve had for a long time – and it wasn’t caused by anything complicated or technical – just simple words of wisdom.
Whoever authored this, I want to say thank you – my spirit has been moved and my mind opened to a new level. The lesson I’ve learnt is one of acceptance, because that is what facilitates growth and progress.
Meditating upon acceptance and surrender is something that I’ve never done before, but I will be looking to do so now. It is in line with The Spiritual Element of Harmony, which is something I’m looking to develop more of.